I am personally not a big fan of texting. There are so many things that can be misconstrued, such as tone and context but I have kids and I know I’d never talk to them if we didn’t text. I don’t blame Jane for being flip, she sounds like she is in a lot of pain. Anger is fear turned outward so there is probably more going on than meets the eye. I definitely wouldn’t wait so long to have some communication with Jane. I would try to make a visit as soon as possible if I didn’t hear back in a couple of days. Of course we can’t buy anything for the children but I am assuming someone can if I am asking her what she wants for her birthday. If no one is able to buy her a present, that is an inappropriate question to ask to begin with.