I shared this with the class but I will repeat it here …. I am Italian on my mother’s side. I have witnessed both with my mother’s generation and my own that the oldest generation finds it appropriate (and apparently necessary) to continue to try and make decisions for their children and grandchildren – or at least share their opinion very loudly and vehemently. With regard to family celebrations, you go where the matriarch stipulates – though the food is always excellent. 🙂
Also – the younger generation will not be informed of any illness if the older generation unless that person is gravely (receiving last rites / moved to hospice care) ill or once the family member is home and safe.